Can we really handle "True Love" ?

Until recently, I struggled to comprehend the essence of LOVE—an emotion often misunderstood. Delving into writings on love by those daring enough to explore its true nature, I discovered a stark contrast to the superficial definitions that equate love solely with physical contact or romantic illusions, which are nothing more than sugar-coated lies. 

After extensive reading and contemplation, I've arrived at some truths about love that are worth considering. The first step is to discern the basis upon which we define love. Is it driven by physical attraction or admiration for certain qualities? 

Let's explore physical love. In this case, everything tends to culminate in sex. While people may be drawn to others based on physical appearance—think celebrity crushes—it's crucial to acknowledge that this isn't true love. I won't dwell on this point, as it's self-evident. 

Now, consider falling in love with someone's qualities. However, if you confine these qualities to the physical realm i.e. If you still believe these qualities are of opposite sex, you're still ensnared in physical love. As mentioned earlier, this isn't genuine love. 

So, what is love? 

Love transcends the physical and the emotional. It need not be romanticized, as the romanticized notion of love is fraught with lies. To understand love, we must first explore how attraction occurs. In our modern era dominated by social media's sexualized portrayal, the prevalent concept of love often fixates on sexual companionship. 

Let's conduct a thought experiment. Picture yourself in a relationship with your "prince/princess charming" who possesses the perfect body, height, color, status, and wealth. Now, systematically strip away these qualities. 

Now, ask yourself honestly, 

do you still love them? 

Your answer reveals much about your understanding of love. Love is not what society conditions us to believe. It is not a concept imposed since childhood, since you got cheated on the very first time, since you cheated on someone, since you left a relationship as you believed that it’s not going to work anymore as your future might not be secured enough with them. 

In all the scenarios mentioned earlier, one common thread emerges—uncertainty. Love, from the start, is uncertain, influenced by the entertainment industry, romantic ideals, and a reluctance to introspect.

Now ask yourself honestly. Have you ever pondered what love truly is? Explored its depths to unearth its meaning? Striven to eliminate the uncertainty plaguing your past relationships? If you’re honest and your answer is no, then you're on the cusp of discovering true love. 

True love is beyond mere companionship; it's about being with someone you envision growing and soaring to new heights. It transcends expectations, as you embark on life's journey together not necessarily hand in hand, but through mutual teaching and encouragement. It's not just saying you love them as they are; it's expressing love for the potential you see in them, motivating them to become their best selves. Instead of embracing imperfections, it's about jointly overcoming these flaws, sculpting a refined version. True love's foundation isn't constructed on the fleeting dreams of romanticized ideals but firmly rooted in the rich soil of truth. 

Admittedly, this is challenging in a world where the very idea of love is built on falsehoods. To love someone else authentically, begin by loving yourself. Challenge existing beliefs, create foundations based on truth rather than temporary motivational fallacies. Truth, intertwined with love, is a rare and exquisite beauty. 

Do not succumb to the trap of external lies that often taint the purity of love. Instead, fall in love with the truth within yourself and extend that love to someone courageous enough to embrace true love. It's not that true love is elusive; it's that many, if not all, struggle to handle its profundity. 

Now, reflect on this sincerely before yearning for true love – can you truly handle its depth? 

Can you?